Thursday, February 09, 2006
A Magic Wedding Anniversary
Today is our 16th wedding anniversary, and we've never been more in love or happier.
This is the second marriage for both of us....the one in which we both discovered the meaning of love and of God's love through marriage. We hope to have many more decades together.
This past year, though, we've both become acutely aware of our mortality.
We're in our early 50s, with various health concerns. Ron was diagnosed as a type II diabetic eight years ago, and I battle high blood pressure and weight. We both exercise, and eat healthier than ever... but we're not young. We also suddenly lost a dear friend last summer to cancer. We sometimes talk about her...it's still hard to imagine that she's gone.
We have palpable appreciation of being together. Is it out of love? Is it out of fear of losing the other, our companion and partner in life? Is it out of futile hoping to freeze fleeting moments, rather like capturing a butterfly? This may be a special malady of the divorced and happily remarried....we acutely realize the preciousness of a good marriage.
We both have a deep faith, and instinctively believe we'll be together in eternity. Our parents are all alive, vaguely well and close to 80 years old, so genetics are on our side.
Perhaps this is a normal stage for 50-something happily marrieds. But we treasure life together, and truly can't imagine life without the other. I hope this is a new depth of love, and not a dimension of fear.
But if it's partially fear, it's causing a new appreciation of each other. And fresh appreciation is always great, magic fun..... :) We're good with that.
Happy Anniversary, my love.