It's me. Still here. Still crazy after all these years, to borrow from a famed baby-boomer philosopher. Deborah Bowen (Clark) White. Debi White for more than 25 years, though, the longest time I've been known by one name.
Just returned from a refreshing weeklong vacation on the big Island with Ron, of course. (See my window for ritual morning coffee, at right.) Ready to return to my blogging roots.
I haven't written at The Crazy Woman ("TCW") for two years. Been busy, growing and expanding, experiencing highs and lows of this life. More about that later... I lost four years of TCW writings, from 2010 to 2014, including a few deeply poignant pieces. I have high hopes of still salvaging the posts from a bungled download. But writing, like life, must carry on...
The Crazy Woman was my first blog, and remains the blog I love best. It's personal, not political or professional or bound for big-time publishing. It's my musings. It's my blog, my page, my thoughts.
I started TCW in 2003 when I first heard of blogging, in the same year my oldest daughter, Trisha, married. In the year that the U.S. started the Iraq War, and changed everything in this country.
Much has changed for me, too, especially in the last four years. Trisha is no longer married, but living the life she always wanted in New York City. Successful woman, that one, especially at marketing. Can scare up a terrific job faster than anyone I've ever known.
My parents both passed away earlier this year, of separate but similar causes. Married 67 years, they were part of each other in every way. Theirs was a marriage full of joy, fun, and sadness, misunderstandings and too much illness. But always, family and commitment.
As for our other adult children, Kevin and lovely wife Lauren, fashion and design guru, live in Berkeley with two cats. Kevin continues to be a star in marketing for a major database corporation. Lucky guy takes BART into The City, and works two blocks from the Giants ballpark. Ryan (and kids) reside near us here in Orange County, and labors mightily in the software field. We feel blessed beyond words to see them often, and be part of their lives.
Yours, mine, and then there's ours... Andrea, our only kid still a twentysomething, lives in greater Washington D.C. Astonishing that she graduated three years ago from that college in Connecticut. She works at a health-related think tank funded, in part, by the Gates Foundation;. is finishing a post-bac pre-med program at University of Maryland; and plans to apply next spring to medical schools. Lots of her friends live in D.C. and New York, so you can imagine, we don't see her much.
Here's the thing. Our kids have their own lives. "Cat's in the Cradle" and all that jazz... they don't need us much anymore. We are finding our way again. I am finding my way again. Still crazy after all these years, I'm pleased to report.
That's what I will be writing about now at The Crazy Woman. Finding my way, post-parenting and post-parents. Check back often. I'd love to share this journey with you.